Being positive has a high vibration or state of being. It makes living your life in ease and grace very doable. Being negative makes living your life in ease and grace almost impossible.  Every experience you have has a lesson attached to it. Starting from the most simple tasks, such as driving to work.  To be safe when you are driving you really need to be completely focused and aware of what is going on around you. But it is easy to go off daydreaming, isn’t it? When you daydream your spirit leaves your body and you are not complete as a person. You need 100 percent of your spirit connected to your body to really be aware enough to learn the things you came here to learn. Practice being in your body while you are driving, and it will help you stay in your body when you need to, such as when you need to focus at work or during an emergency.

Whatever you are experiencing, it is just that, an experience. And that experience can be experienced any way you want. What do you choose?

If you are afraid to speak up for yourself, imagine doing so in a kind and loving way. Then ask yourself, “What is that person’s likely reaction?” if you spoke your mind. Then follow that up with, “And then what?” repeatedly until you get to the worst case, but still realistic, scenario. Chances are whatever that situation is, you may be very willing to live it with it.

If you feel ready to speak your mind, but still can’t quite open your mouth, then try the techniques in Chapter 11 of Every Path Leads To Love to release the fear you have associated with speaking your mind. Once you release that fear, you’ll be able to say what you need to say from a loving place instead of keeping it all bottled up inside of you.

But the thing that you feel guilty about is almost never as bad as it seems to you.

Quite often the thing you feel guilty about is not even something you feel bad about. Instead, it is something you think will cause others to be hurt or disappointed if they find out what you did.

Say, for example, that your mother hates motorcycles and forbade you to ride one as a child. Now, as an adult, you’ve been on the back of a friend’s motorcycle and you are even with the idea of getting one of your own, but you feel guilty about it. In reality, you have no guilt about your action—you have guilt at letting your mother down by doing something she forbade you to do when you were a teen.

When you feel guilt, pause for a moment and ask yourself: “Do I feel guilty because of something I believe in my heart or do I feel guilty because I’ve adopted someone else’s belief, or even society’s belief as a whole?” The key is to get to the root of your truth.

If the answer is that this is not your personal belief, then you have a great opportunity to start letting go of other people’s beliefs and start owning your own truth. Use the guided visualizations in Chapter 6 of Every Path Leads To Love to start the process of letting go of others ideas of what is right and wrong. When you do, you will not only find the real you as well as release any remaining guilt you have felt surrounding these issues.

A personal note from Lexa:

Quite a few years ago I went through a deep depression. We had just moved toCaliforniaand, for the first time in my adult life, I was not busy all the time. Because I wasn’t constantly running and had time to be alone with my thoughts, all the pain I had experienced during childhood and run away from caught up with me. I felt useless. I felt like there was no point in getting up every morning. Nothing seemed good. Even though I had my families support and love, I was not able to love myself or my life.

I started therapy with a wonderful woman who helped me look at the past (my childhood), accept it and start to move on. No matter how yucky I felt when I woke up in the morning, I said out loud, “I love my life,” even when that love was buried under the pain and I could not feel it at the moment. When I was out and people asked, “How are you?” I responded, “I am great, I love my life!” With time and the constant “I love my life” affirmation, I started to realize that I really do love my life.

These days, when someone asks me how I am, I respond with an enthusiastic, “I love my life!” and I mean it. If they ask me why, I tell them that I love my life because I choose to. I can love it, hate it, or tolerate it.

How about choosing to love your life today, no matter how bad it seems? I can almost guarantee you will start to feel more positive almost instantly, and that, if you continue do it over time, you truly will love your life.

The core of this issue is deciding you are worth being treated with respect. You may or may not know the things that keep you from standing up for yourself and it does not matter. Decide to let anything you hold onto that says it is okay to be treated disrespectfully go. You can start this process by using the guided visualizations in Chapter 6 of Every Path Leads To Love. Ask the universe, God or whatever works for you to help you release the things that do not serve your highest and best interest.

Clearing out that old programming will uncover your voice and allow you to speak up. You may have to force yourself to say something the first time, but it will continue to get easier.

Even if you have to clean the toilet today, you can still make it fun. What if you imagined the people who used the toilet doing their business and what their faces looked like? That would make you laugh. How about if you imagined all your troubles going down with the water as you flush the toilet? We’ll bet that would relieve some pressure and allow you find more fun. What if you decided to laugh out loud every time the toilet flushed? We know that would make you feel better, since it’s been proven that laughter increases your endorphins.

No matter what your responsibilities are, you can find the fun in them. We challenge you to think outside the box today and find fun no matter what your responsibilities are.

One way to start simply is to allow yourself to be aware of when you start to judge other people. For example, when you think things like, “He should cut his hair,” or “She’d be so much more attractive if she just lose some weight.” Let those things go and find a replacement thought, such as “I’ll bet he likes his hair that length,” or “She looks great just as she is.” Without inner love for yourself as well as others, there is little peace and harmony.

Make room for love to fit within you by clearing out old pain, past hurts and judgments of yourself and others.  By deciding that today you will start to accept yourself and everyone around you just as they are, you will move closer to love. Making peace with your thoughts will bring you peace throughout your life.

If you do not know what it is you do, but know you should be doing something, ask Spirit for assistance and be open to the help you receive, regardless of where it comes from.

Don’t pretend any longer that you are not healers. You are in the deepest sense of the word. The joy you will bring is immeasurable.  And it is time. Let your wings open and fly.